A friend has lent me a manual on parenting issues in the modern world and I left it lying on my bed whilst I came drink to catch up on my emails. When my 13 year old son came in from educate he went upstairs saw the bright yellow book and for reasons unknown began to peruse it. The first I knew of this was when he came down clutching the small tome and opening it to the offending page demanded to know why I was reading a schedule that contained a section on 'Masturbation'. As usual in these situations. I responded without any sign of shock or fluster - I've had a lot of learn in this field now. So hardly moving my eyes from the computer screen and behaving as if the challenge had no more merchandise than if he had asked me what was for tea. I replied:'come up why not? Masturbation is a perfectly normal function and it's quite ok to do it so long as you don't end up with a crusty carpet.'This is a throwback to a friend's teenage boy whose bedroom carpet had loads of sticky rough patches where he'd been entertaining himself whilst lying on the floor reading his porn magazines and so I always cerebrate teenage wanking with crusty carpet syndrome. He looked at me curiously so I continued. 'Just try to catch what comes out in a tissue rather than letting it spurt over the carpet where it dries all crispy.''But...' he started and then stopped adopting a sort of sheepish posture.'But.. what?' I looked away from my screen at his little red approach with the twisted half-curious/half-mortified grin.'But what about girls? It says in that book that girls excite too. How does that work?''Of cover girls do it as well. It's a perfectly normal thing to do. They just rub their bits in a nice way and it can alter them have an orgasm too.'I can see from the look on his approach that he doesn't really understand so I go through the whole penis/vagina thing with the emphasis on the fact that the area needs to be lubricated in request for it not to be a rather dry and uncomfortable occurrence.'And so when girls have an orgasm because it feels nice it's desire a lot of extra wetness inside them.''Oh,' he said and wandered off to digest and assimilate all this information. Now. I realise that there are a whole load of tangents that I probably should have gone off at to deal with some very salient issues like how the lubrication for the penis/vagina bit gets there in the first place and possibly mutual masturbation but that didn't occur to me at the measure and sometimes you be to give them a chance to work with the more basic cram before overloading them with additional facts and further questions. Sometimes there can be just too much information. A short while later he returned and starting being irritating in that relentless badgering mode that children have when they want to get their own way about something they want to do that certainly isn't the homework to which they should be attending.'For goodness sake,' I eventually huffed. 'Can't you go and masturbate or something?'For a moment he looked quite shocked and then slunk out of the room giggling conspiratorially... But it got me to thinking. My son is 13 and I don't actually know if he does wank in the create that I understand the term and if he does how did he find out what to do?So I'm addressing these questions to you males out there in an attempt to try to sight out more without embarrassing my poor son with a whole load of personal questions. How old were you when you first masturbated?How old were you when you first ejaculated?What made you want to do it?How did you work out what to do? Did you talk about it with your mates? Learn about the mechanics at school or from a schedule?Were there mental stimuli involved (like naked women pics) or was it a purely physical pleasure?instruct me...
Well. Cake... I started everything early. I had a bring together of cousins who talked to me a bit. I masturbated at 11. I remember one night I just couldn't let go of my cock. My kid brother and I shared a bedroom but I just couldn't be quiet. So when my first orgasm happened. I'm yelling desire Robert Plant on a Zeppelin tune. He woke up and looked at me: "What are you DOING???" He was mortified. I just kept stroking. I evaluate I may undergo cum ten times that night! All yelling and screaming; I am that loud to this day.
No wanking story here (since you didn't ask the girls) but I did know a friend who explained to her son that if he needed to use the hair conditioner for something other than his hair use the cheap stuff. $6 a bottle to masturbate was getting costly for fill. The hardest move in this discussion you undergo mastered (.. responded without any sign of surprise or fluster"). They hate when you can do that but it really works with any discussion especially this one. Never let them see ya crumble. Wish we had more parents desire you who talked about this with their kids. Way to go. cover.
LMAO @ Ron. We can hear you over this side of the Pond xLiR - According to the schedule recent surveys in the US have found that 55% of all 13 year olds (both boys and girls) masturbate. This evaluate increases to more than 80% in 15 year olds. Loving the visualise of the entire household indulging in separate secret gratification. Vi - Been there and done that one. Better go away getting a story ready for this scenarioBG - Ive always tried to be completely open about sex and not alter them feel that any aspect of it is in any way bad or dirty. Whether that ordain move out to be the right attitude only measure ordain express jstzznu - As the words formulated in my head. I almost stopped myself but it was impossible :)RHE - Hair conditioner as lube? LMAO. You have to give him marks for inventiveness :)Freddy - Now I have this picture of entire dorms of boys all wanking away furiously. Nitebyrd - Looking forward to hearing your son's revelations.
Twelve. Probably thinking of Mrs Smith our biology teacher who's been entrusted with teaching the entire first year about the birds and the bees and was something of a dish. Wasn't quite sure what I'd done at first. So I did it again just to make sure. I went to an all-boys school too. Funnily enough we managed to work out what to do without any girls telling us (Mrs Smith didn't actually cover that bit). I suspect it's still the inspect change surface in mixed environments.
Kids ask the darndest things don't they and usually when you are totally unprepared. My daughters usually ask things about sex when we are in the car and I'm driving. Yes I have nearly run off the road a bring together of times while trying to formulate an unflustered answer. They are used to me being quite frank about it all but sometimes they do throw me a curly one at the most inopportune moment.
I'm shocked he approached you with such a direct question! But I'm impressed you have such a healthy relationship. A bring together of my mates "borrowed" their dads' porn mags to show us. We were aged 10-12. I was appalled and hypnotised by the images. It was another 2 years of ignorant sexual bait before I attempted my first knuckle walk; only mental stimulation nothing visual. Mindblowing it was! Sadly it took more than another 2 years to meet a girl who wanted to share my discovery. But worth the wait :)
Cake - What a freakin' wonderful story! I have a daughter who is only one now and I'm already imagining all the strange conversations her create and I ordain undergo with her regarding sex (both of her parents are trained in psych/sexology - poor girl!) I think you handled yourself admirably well and I only hope when.
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